Paradoxical Theory of Change (PTC)

The Paradoxical Theory of Change (PTC) : holds that personal change tends to occur when we become aware of what we are as opposed to trying to become what we are not (Beisser, 1970)

In essence, in order to become who you want to be, you must first accept who you are. Or in order to achieve growth (a personal, life-long venture), you must first recognize and accept just how you make adjustments (temporary and fickle environmental changes) in your life. It’s the theory that we can ultimately only change who we are once we accept that we are not perfect and accept how we are not perfect.

Well, I’ve long since realized that I am far from perfect but I’m stuck in that phase between realizing how I am not perfect and how I can change that. Really, the main problem I have is identifying those areas that are “quirks” and those that are “major flaws”; the difference between what I can change and what I shouldn’t.

Because sometimes “flaws” or “quirks” are deeply embedded into who you are as a person, it can become difficult to recognize and differentiate between those areas you need to work on and those areas that help uniquely make up you as an individual. To do this, you must first be prepared to look deeper into your thoughts and feelings than you are generally accustomed to and be ready to face any of those old demons that you may have burried away and tried to forget.


About TommyBoiZee

Our Deepest Fear is that We Are Powerful Beyond Measure Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn't serve the world. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. Marianne Williamson I am a boy seeking words of wisdom from those around me, seeking courage to defy me, seeking inspirations to enlighten me, seeking truth to set me free.... most importantly, I wanna be happy..
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